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Old 08-05-2014, 12:42 PM   #1
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When and how to tell

Dear friends,

I hope this is the right place for me to ask this question. I'm hoping that I can learn from your experience.
I became a Baha'i little over a year ago when I was living abroad. Due to the economical situation, I had to return back to my home country and I am currently living with my parents.
Thing is in my home, religion isn't a topic that gets touched at all. My parents are non practising catholics, as was I before I became Baha'i, my dad is oretty much against any religion possible. Which is not an easy situation, especially when something comes on telly concerning religion and harsh comments drop.
Due to this situation I have yet to tell my parents about my decision, and it is also one of the reasons I have not been able to go to as much meetings as I would like to.

What are your experiences in telling your parents? Can you give me any advice?
Also, how do you decide to tell friends, co-workers, your boss at work, since religion is quite a difficult subject these days, especially if it is something people have hardly heard about?

Thank you!
 
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Old 08-05-2014, 07:02 PM   #2
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Deeds, not words

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Dear friends,

I hope this is the right place for me to ask this question. I'm hoping that I can learn from your experience.
I became a Baha'i little over a year ago when I was living abroad. Due to the economical situation, I had to return back to my home country and I am currently living with my parents.
Thing is in my home, religion isn't a topic that gets touched at all. My parents are non practising catholics, as was I before I became Baha'i, my dad is oretty much against any religion possible. Which is not an easy situation, especially when something comes on telly concerning religion and harsh comments drop.
Due to this situation I have yet to tell my parents about my decision, and it is also one of the reasons I have not been able to go to as much meetings as I would like to.

What are your experiences in telling your parents? Can you give me any advice?
Also, how do you decide to tell friends, co-workers, your boss at work, since religion is quite a difficult subject these days, especially if it is something people have hardly heard about?

Thank you!
. In my own experience, my words had very little value to my folks unless first demonstrated by my deeds. I had sunk pretty far in my rebellious youth, and they knew it. Anything that reflected a positive change in their eyes meant something was behind it.

. If you do mention to your parents that you have become a Baha'i, maybe use caution and await for the right timing. Be careful not to rub your dad the wrong way if he is already excitable at the subject. Also, be 95% listener and 5% talker. Show courtesy and respect for your parents no matter what they say. Maybe intoduce a Baha'i friend somewhere down the road, but don't be to overt about it, as though there is a forced agenda falling down on them from you.

O SON OF DUST!

The wise are they that speak not unless they obtain a hearing, even as the cup-bearer, who proffereth not his cup till he findeth a seeker, and the lover who crieth not out from the depths of his heart until he gazeth upon the beauty of his beloved. Wherefore sow the seeds of wisdom and knowledge in the pure soil of the heart, and keep them hidden, till the hyacinths of divine wisdom spring from the heart and not from mire and clay.

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Old 10-27-2014, 08:25 AM   #3
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Hello,

I feel like the more calm you are, the calmer the response will be. Perhaps your friends or co-workers will see you reciting a prayer before eating and that'll be the perfect opportunity to tell them not only what you're doing, but why. Or bring a baha'i book to read when you go on on your break. Some people will wonder what you're reading and that'll be a good opportunnity to tell that person about your faith.

When I told my immediate family that I became a muslim, they were neither positive or negative. They didn't know what to think. They were obviously shocked because our family is not religious at all, but they were cool with it. Whatever made me happy, they were OK with it.

My aunt, however, was happy for me. May Allah bless her. Like my other family members, she was surprised, but she trusted that whatever my reason was for converting, it must've been for a good reason.
 
Old 10-27-2014, 12:53 PM   #4
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Dear friends,

I hope this is the right place for me to ask this question. I'm hoping that I can learn from your experience.
I became a Baha'i little over a year ago when I was living abroad. Due to the economical situation, I had to return back to my home country and I am currently living with my parents.
Thing is in my home, religion isn't a topic that gets touched at all. My parents are non practising catholics, as was I before I became Baha'i, my dad is oretty much against any religion possible. Which is not an easy situation, especially when something comes on telly concerning religion and harsh comments drop.
Due to this situation I have yet to tell my parents about my decision, and it is also one of the reasons I have not been able to go to as much meetings as I would like to.

What are your experiences in telling your parents? Can you give me any advice?
Also, how do you decide to tell friends, co-workers, your boss at work, since religion is quite a difficult subject these days, especially if it is something people have hardly heard about?

Thank you!
Dear Tinkerbell, I agree with Dale, actions speak louder than words.
Deepen in knowledge of the faith and strive to put it in action in your daily life.
For myself I consider the direct approach and honesty was my way. But dear friend you know your family, I was in no danger of abuse or physical harm, so I can't tell you what to do. But if you are fearful, then say nothing until they see and realize a change in you and your life then tell.

As for work colleges I never say anything usually this question comes up from them, they ask what religion I am. One does not push the faith onto anyone, when people ask then just give sufficient information to perhaps make them want to ask more then a little more and so on.

Loving regards to you
bill
 
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