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Old 11-01-2014, 06:01 PM   #1
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Question-Bahai Relationship Issue

Hello,

I am a fairly new Baha'i and I have a question. I and my boyfriend are Baha'is. I am worried that I will have to move in with my boyfriend for financial reasons. I work over 50 hours a week and still can't make ends meet. I may have to move in with him for a while until I get financially stable. I know the writings explicitly say that cohabitating before marriage is wrong. Are there any allowances made for someone that is struggling? I don't really know what else I can do. I have cut every expense I know to cut and I'm still struggling severely. I wanted to reach out to more experienced Baha'is to see what you think.
 
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Old 11-02-2014, 03:52 AM   #2
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Hello,

I am a fairly new Baha'i and I have a question. I and my boyfriend are Baha'is. I am worried that I will have to move in with my boyfriend for financial reasons. I work over 50 hours a week and still can't make ends meet. I may have to move in with him for a while until I get financially stable. I know the writings explicitly say that cohabitating before marriage is wrong. Are there any allowances made for someone that is struggling? I don't really know what else I can do. I have cut every expense I know to cut and I'm still struggling severely. I wanted to reach out to more experienced Baha'is to see what you think.
Beloved sister, my advice is to follow your conscience and remember that God loves us all
 
Old 11-02-2014, 03:52 AM   #3
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Ever thought of getting married?

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Old 11-02-2014, 04:48 AM   #4
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Another option may be to find a female room mate, advertise for one if necessary. College students do that all the time. It can create both good and bad experiences, but that is life, you may make a friend, teach the Faith to others.
 
Old 11-02-2014, 05:36 AM   #5
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Another option may be to find a female room mate,.
Marriage is more fun. You can have children - much more interesting than kittens, actually: they can talk, they have souls....

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Old 11-02-2014, 06:12 AM   #6
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Dear young Baha'i friend, I wish you well, you have decissions to make, that only you can make.
But the Baha'i law is no sex before marriage, the rest is up to you.

Loving regards for your future.
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Old 11-02-2014, 07:43 AM   #7
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Hello, I know the writings explicitly say that cohabitating before marriage is wrong. Are there any allowances made for someone that is struggling?
Choices. We are all free to make choices, and come to decisions, on how we deal with our common lot of struggles and trials. Baha'u'llah urged us to repeat the 'Remover of Difficulties' prayer in times of testing so that we may receive additional support and guidance. Best wishes to you!


"In discharging their educational responsibilities towards the body of the believers, the institutions of the Faith need to bear in mind how little is accomplished when their efforts are reduced to repeated admonitions or to dogmatic instruction in proper conduct. Rather should their aim be to raise consciousness and to increase understanding. Theirs is not the duty to pry into personal lives or to impose Bahá’í law on the individual but to create an environment in which the friends eagerly arise to fulfil their obligations as followers of Bahá’u’lláh, to uphold His law, and to align their lives with His teachings. The efforts of the institutions will bear fruit to the extent that the friends, especially those of the younger generation, find themselves immersed in the activities of a vibrant and growing community and feel confirmed in the mission with which Bahá’u’lláh has entrusted them.

(Universal House of Justice to a National Spiritual Assembly, 19 April 2013)
 
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