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Old 05-19-2018, 11:24 PM   #1
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depression

I have a huge regret over something I did and its giving me depression thinking of it. How do I get over this feeling of regret?
 
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Old 07-24-2018, 09:31 AM   #2
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Depression

I have had many regrets that used to cause me a lot of shame and as I read the writings I realized that God is a forgiving and merciful God and what we have done in the past is forgiven as long as we don't continue to do the wrong again in the present. So when my ego would bring memories of my past actions that I felt ashamed repeatedly I started to say to it God has forgiven me who are you, my animal consciousness to keep shaming me. Then I started to say to myself I choose to forgive myself for falling short. I thank God that I no longer do the wrong things now that I know better and have better understanding. So practicing self-forgiveness and not wasting time and energy on the past knowing I cannot change the past only behave better from now on.
 
Old 07-24-2018, 10:09 AM   #3
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I have been struggling with regrets too and what is helping me is the realization that when with sincerity I stop doing the wrong actions and ask God for forgiveness, the writings assure us that God is a forgiving and merciful God. So I realize that it is my lower nature, the satanic self that keeps reminding me and shaming me and it was the same self that encouraged me to do the wrong things. Since we can't change the past I keep telling my higher self to help me not to listen or believe what this lower self repeats again and again that I am a bad person because I fell short, but does not acknowledge that I am not doing the wrong action any more. All we can do is to do better now that we have become aware. We must practice compassion with ourself and turn to the love of God and think of positive things we have done after recognizing the wrong we did. So self-forgiveness and being kind to myself is helping me not to listen and believe the shaming thoughts and the negative self-talk. This has been a difficult challenge for me so I work at it daily and it is getting better because I stop listening and I confront the lower nature and say you are not interested in seeing me improve you are only interested in shaming me which makes me feel terrible about myself. That is why this lower nature is called our worst enemy by Abdu'l-Baha. Stop listening and believing what it says. We are children and servants of God and God loves us dearly and God's love can heal us.
 
Old 07-24-2018, 10:38 AM   #4
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I just added but it is not showing. Chech the Hawaiian forgiveness prayer called Ho'Oponopono. You think of yourself and how you have allowed your lower nature to hurt you and anyone who has hurt you because they listened to their lower nature; and anyone you hurt because you listened to your lower nature. This is what you say. I am sorry! Please forgive me! I love you! Thank you!
 
Old 07-24-2018, 01:06 PM   #5
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I have had many regrets that used to cause me a lot of shame and as I read the writings I realized that God is a forgiving and merciful God and what we have done in the past is forgiven as long as we don't continue to do the wrong again in the present. So when my ego would bring memories of my past actions that I felt ashamed repeatedly I started to say to it God has forgiven me who are you, my animal consciousness to keep shaming me. Then I started to say to myself I choose to forgive myself for falling short. I thank God that I no longer do the wrong things now that I know better and have better understanding. So practicing self-forgiveness and not wasting time and energy on the past knowing I cannot change the past only behave better from now on.
Good to see you here Seeking.

Thank you for the very good advice on this thread.

Regards Tony
 
Old 07-25-2018, 11:15 PM   #6
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The greatness of His mercy surpasseth the fury of His wrath, and His grace encompasseth all who have been called into being and been clothed with the robe of life.

(Bahá’u’lláh, Gleanings from the Writings of Bahá’u’lláh, p. 130)
 
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