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Old 03-12-2018, 01:30 PM   #1
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Do we have to remain in contact with a loved one if they are being abusive towards us

*psychological abuse, to be exact*
 
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Old 03-12-2018, 01:41 PM   #2
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No "We know absence of light is darkness, but no one would assert darkness was not a fact. It exists even though it is only the absence of something else. So evil exists too, and we cannot close our eyes to it, even though it is a negative existence. We must seek to supplant it by good, and if we see an evil person is not influenceable by us, then we should shun his company for it is unhealthy." - The guardian

"In the passage 'eschew all fellowship with the ungodly,' Bahá'u'lláh means that we should shun the company of those who disbelieve in God and are wayward. The word 'ungodly' is a reference to such perverse people. The words 'Be thou as a flame of fire to My enemies and a river of life eternal to My loved ones' should not be taken in their literal sense. Bahá'u'lláh's advice is that again we should flee from the enemies of God and instead seek the fellowship of His lovers."
 
Old 03-12-2018, 02:24 PM   #3
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No "We know absence of light is darkness, but no one would assert darkness was not a fact. It exists even though it is only the absence of something else. So evil exists too, and we cannot close our eyes to it, even though it is a negative existence. We must seek to supplant it by good, and if we see an evil person is not influenceable by us, then we should shun his company for it is unhealthy." - The guardian

"In the passage 'eschew all fellowship with the ungodly,' Bahá'u'lláh means that we should shun the company of those who disbelieve in God and are wayward. The word 'ungodly' is a reference to such perverse people. The words 'Be thou as a flame of fire to My enemies and a river of life eternal to My loved ones' should not be taken in their literal sense. Bahá'u'lláh's advice is that again we should flee from the enemies of God and instead seek the fellowship of His lovers."
So does that mean I should just stop communicating with them?
 
Old 03-12-2018, 03:51 PM   #4
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So does that mean I should just stop communicating with them?
This is always a difficult test of Faith. Only prayer and much meditation can give you the path you will eventually take.

I do not think there is a precise answer to give unless there has been a lawful sanction given against a person. Then we have clear guidance on those matters.

I say this as when you read of Abdul'baha, you will note that forgiveness is always the key and that no matter what, we are still Baha'is to all people.

You will learn from what you face in life.

Regards Tony
 
Old 03-13-2018, 10:19 AM   #5
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Forgiveness sometimes needs to be done from a safe distance. We can love and forgive someone, while at the same time not putting ourselves in harm's way.

Loving regards,
Becky
 
Old 03-20-2018, 11:23 PM   #6
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You know the details of your situation; we do not. A keen judgment is often helpful to arrive at a satisfactory course of action in such a situation; judgment relies in part upon information; and little information has been provided--understandably, as some things are best kept private.

In God let the trusting trust.
 
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