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Old 05-19-2018, 12:24 PM   #1
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Depression because I have a big regret

I committed a sin and I am extremely regretful of it. I dont know how I can forgive myself for it or get over it and move on. Its giving me depression and I feel like a terrible bahai. Will I ever be able to get over this.
 
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Old 05-19-2018, 12:53 PM   #2
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I committed a sin and I am extremely regretful of it. I dont know how I can forgive myself for it or get over it and move on. Its giving me depression and I feel like a terrible bahai. Will I ever be able to get over this.
Whatever it was I do not think it could be that bad unless you really hurt another person, but even then it depends upon what you did.

I know what it is like to feel guilty and depressed though. I am also trained as a counselor and have been a Baha'i for over 47 years. If you want to talk about it off the forum just send me a private message.
 
Old 05-19-2018, 02:35 PM   #3
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I committed a sin and I am extremely regretful of it. I dont know how I can forgive myself for it or get over it and move on. Its giving me depression and I feel like a terrible bahai. Will I ever be able to get over this.
You are not alone in this aspect of life and God is the greatest in forgiveness.

This prayer is a good meditation.

"O God! Refresh and gladden my spirit. Purify my heart. Illumine my powers. I lay all my affairs in Thy hand. Thou art my Guide and my Refuge. I will no longer be sorrowful and grieved; I will be a happy and joyful being. O God! I will no longer be full of anxiety, nor will I let trouble harass me. I will not dwell on the unpleasant things of life.

O God! Thou art more friend to me than I am to myself. I dedicate myself to Thee, O Lord."

There are consequences for our neglect, but we are to learn from them and move on to be a better person.

I wish you strong Faith as the wisdom unfolds for you. We can not change what is done, we can change to be better.

Regards Tony
 
Old 05-19-2018, 06:57 PM   #4
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I have found myself asking forgiveness over and over again for some really stupid things I did in my younger years. I know that I have given my shame over to God, and asked for forgiveness. He is a forgiving God, and has forgiven me for my times of heedlessness, but while I haven't completely gotten over my graceless acts, I know in my heart, it us long past time to do so. This I think is one of my tests of Faith. Bahai's are people, we are going to fail and fall. It is a test of Faith to accept God's forgiveness.

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Becky
 
Old 05-19-2018, 07:32 PM   #5
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I committed a sin and I am extremely regretful of it. I dont know how I can forgive myself for it or get over it and move on. Its giving me depression and I feel like a terrible bahai. Will I ever be able to get over this.
Good morning very dear friend

All very pertinent responses above. And as Becky said regarding things we did in our younger years - there will always be "something" over which every individual will feel guilt, no matter that we know that God is the Forgiver of sins, and the Ever-Loving, and the Most Merciful.

You may feel like it, but I think I can most confidently say that you are not "a terrible Baha'i". You are loved, you are supported, you are far more and greater than any self-opinion you may have.

Yes, you will be able to get over this. You will learn from this, and not make this mistake again. But the path now is through prayer, and through learning to be gentle with yourself.

Know that the sinner always feels their sin more intently than any other person, and often the self-judgement is worse and not truly justified.

Time may not ever take away the feeling of guilt, and that feeling can be terrible. But it can also be self-inflictive and simply a means by which one punishes one's self.

God is the Healer, and the Forgiver, and He Who is most kind. Turn from yourself and unto God alone, and He will, by this very action, heal thy depression.

I give to you my love, my support, my prayers and my most warm greetings

Romane
 
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