Napkin

So I'm in a committed relationship with a girl who wants us to bring another girl into the bedroom.

I would be an absolute idiot for rejecting that idea, but what is the Baha'i take on that?

Why would I agree or disagree with that?

What complications could it bring into our spiritual or physical lives?

LordOfGoblins

yeh you should fear God and not do it.
Already have sex outside marraige is not too good for the soul. It goes against the command of God for the day..

tonyfish58

Basically what LOG Said

Life becomes very complicated if you do not Follow the laws for this day, after a while you will wished you had and will see the wisdom if you had followed the laws.

The problem we have today is the amount of exposure with have to unmoral behavior, it is now everywhere and taken to be OK.

It is a choice you must make

Regards Tony

Essence of GOD

sometimes its best to keep life simple and dignified.

Napkin

Thanks guys.

I'm not comprehending why sex before marriage is bad or the soul. I'm not some sex freak and I only have sex with someone I am in a relationship with. Never with random partners as some do and always protected. why is that so bad? Isn't sex just part of life? We all know how difficult it is to find the right person to marry, Am I expected to not have sex till I do? It could be 10 years before I get married.

hypnotoad

Overall, I think of the Baha'i Laws as general rules that are best, on average. As we know, Progressive Revelation means that not all laws are right for all times and circumstances.

I'd say for having a threesome, though, anytime you add another party to the sexual mix of a relationship, you risk some crazy complications. Maybe things turn out fine, maybe not. It's something I've done with people I didn't really know when I was younger at college parties and what not, but I would never do that with a committed partner.

The other reason, is that oftentimes it's really hard to know what kind of STD history a third party might bring to the table. Some STD's will not appear on tests until almost 6 months after being contracted. I never really trust most people well enough to believe that they've not had sex that long, if they're not in a relationship with me.

The point is, I took enough risks as a young dude, why take them now when I'm married and in the clear as far as STDs and psychological trauma go?

Also, generally speaking, if you're not in a committed relationship for at least a 6 month wait so that both partners can get tested (assuming they had an ill advised youth) then you really shouldn't be having sex anyway.

LordOfGoblins

you just got to read the writings to try to see how these things work.
You're not going to find a Bahai who knows exactly how your soul is being affected by not following the laws of God.
For example one might say. "whats wrong with a little drink now and again, Im not hurting anyone".
Ultimately if we believe Baha'u'llah is who he says then we strive to live our lives in accordance to his decrees.
That is what righteousness is...
It involves some sacrifice. The laws are like that.
Consider fasting. One might say whats wrong with eating? There is no good to be had depriving youreslf of food from sunrise to sunset for 19 days.
We dont always know the wisdoms of these things...

From my own view though Id say it is just desecrating the sanctity of marraige. Something along those lines..

good luck to you..