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Old 05-10-2018, 03:12 PM   #1
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Hi everyone

Hi, I come from a Christian background but I really do believe that Baha'u'llah is the current Manifestation of God. Due to family issues I have not officially declared it. This is because my wife has told me that if I do she would divorce me, meaning if I officially became a Baha'i she would end the marriage. I asked her that question as a hypothetical and she said she would divorce me. Therefore, she doesn't know that I do believe what I have stated above, because if she did, I am afraid that would be the end of our marriage. She is a fundamentalist Christian and is very active in the church. Unfortunately this is not the best of worlds, because I have to keep my new found faith a secret, and that really bothers me inside. However, my marriage is very important to me, and we have three children. I fell in love with the Baha'i Faith reading the Writings of Baha'u'llah and Abdu'l-Baha. Glad to be part of the forum. Hope to learn more things about the faith by participating in this community.



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Old 05-10-2018, 06:05 PM   #2
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Hi, ...
Good morning most dear friend.

First, a bright and shining welcome to this forum, and likewise to your acceptance of Baha'u'llah as the Messenger of God for this Day.

I speak only personally - there is no authority in what I say - but I believe you have made the right decision. As you delve deeper into the Baha'i Writings, you will come to appreciate in a greater sense the vital importance of the family. It is the family that forms the basis of society, and if the family collapses, so does society, a fact which we are sadly and painfully seeing and experiencing in the world (at least, the Western world, my experience is not in other social orders) in this day.

Despite being now able to see the truths and untruths in your wife's beliefs, you are still in a position to encourage her, and to, most gently, most carefully, most lovingly, most acceptingly of her own position, by example demonstrate and explain the truths of Christ's message and allow her to see, on her own, the untruths which millennia of blind imitation have imposed upon the followers of that Essence of Love, Jesus Christ.

It is not that you have left Christ behind. It is that you have recognised the fulfillment of the Message of Christ and embraced that fulfillment. This is most clearly not understood by her.

By encouraging your family to good, by abiding by the truths of True Faith, by accepting as-is your wife and her beliefs, by exemplifying as well as possible the spiritual qualities which every Messenger of God strove to inculcate, you can be a strong positive influence in your family - not by word but by deed - toward righteousness and uprightness. And in doing thus, you can quite rightfully consider yourself as an active Baha'i. And if your family becomes and behaves more Christlike, then, as 'Abdu'l-Baha states, a Christian who behaves as Christ would have them, is a Baha'i.

And who can tell the future? Who can tell the results of your deeds? It is, with prayer, with love, with careful attention, but most importantly by your deeds, that may allow one day your wife to open her eyes and come to recognise the Truth of Baha'u'llah - for you cannot open her eyes to wakefulness after a period of sleep, only she can do that.

And what is the more important - the heart and the spirit, or attachments to things of this world?

With my love and my most warm greetings

Romane
 
Old 05-11-2018, 10:32 AM   #3
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Unfortunately this is not the best of worlds, because I have to keep my new found faith a secret, and that really bothers me inside. However, my marriage is very important to me, and we have three children. I fell in love with the Baha'i Faith reading the Writings of Baha'u'llah and Abdu'l-Baha. Glad to be part of the forum. Hope to learn more things about the faith by participating in this community.
Sounds like you made the best choice you could with the given circumstances. Putting the interests of your children before your own is a very admirable and noble thing to do, as that's the first and foremost duty to any parent.

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Old 05-11-2018, 11:17 AM   #4
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Hi, I come from a Christian background but I really do believe that Baha'u'llah is the current Manifestation of God. Due to family issues I have not officially declared it. This is because my wife has told me that if I do she would divorce me, meaning if I officially became a Baha'i she would end the marriage. I asked her that question as a hypothetical and she said she would divorce me. Therefore, she doesn't know that I do believe what I have stated above, because if she did, I am afraid that would be the end of our marriage. She is a fundamentalist Christian and is very active in the church. Unfortunately this is not the best of worlds, because I have to keep my new found faith a secret, and that really bothers me inside. However, my marriage is very important to me, and we have three children. I fell in love with the Baha'i Faith reading the Writings of Baha'u'llah and Abdu'l-Baha. Glad to be part of the forum. Hope to learn more things about the faith by participating in this community.



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A very warm Baha'i welcome to you! I too am from a Christian background and becoming a Baha'i has helped me to understand that faith better. My husband is Methodist and has no interest in making any changes. He believes in God, and that was what was important to me when we met. You are in the unique position of truly understanding the Christian religion as envisioned by Christ. This will probably make it easier to understand and love your wife even though she has been unable to recognize the Word of God has come yet again, just as Jesus said. Whether she is or is not able to recognize Baha'u'llah shouldn't preclude your having a loving and fulfilling home life. I am glad you found the forums, wise and loving people can be found here. As well as those of us who are not so wise, just loving.

Loving Baha'i regards,
Becky
 
Old 05-11-2018, 12:16 PM   #5
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Welcome to the Forum, great to have you here.

At this link there is a good PDF that can be downloaded with advice from the writings about 'When your spouse is not a Baha'i'


Baha'i Faith Marriage

Scroll down the page a bit and it can be found.

Look forward to hearing from you and having a chat.

Regards Tony
 
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